Meet the Founders: The Visionaries Behind The Be Who You Really See™ Methodology and The Fantasy Love Co.

As co-creators of The Be Who You Really See™ Methodology and co-founders of The Fantasy Love Co., Ashley and Tristan Boyd bridge the gap between therapy and coaching, integrating trauma-informed depth, identity transformation, and structured, results-driven coaching. Their proven, repeatable system empowers individuals and couples to break through emotional barriers, cultivate deep connection, and turn the love they envision into reality—every single day.

With a strong foundation in leadership, trauma-informed healing, and human behavior, Ashley and Tristan have guided individuals, couples, and fellow practitioners toward lasting relational success. Their expertise in attachment science, subconscious reprogramming, conflict resolution, and strategic coaching has shaped a methodology that not only facilitates deep healing but also provides the actionable strategies needed for lasting transformation. As thought leaders in relationship mastery and personal growth, they are committed to helping people rewire limiting patterns, master communication, and design relationships that feel secure, passionate, and fully aligned with their true selves.

With a background in sociology and mathematics from The University of Texas at Austin, Tristan specializes in human behavior, decision-making, and relational dynamics—ensuring that his coaching doesn’t just offer insight, but addresses the root causes of relationship struggles. His research in gender and racial relations, unconscious behavior, and conflict resolution contributed to the foundation for the Be Who You Really See™ Methodology, giving individuals a clear path to breaking past emotional barriers, uncovering limiting beliefs, and building relationships that feel fully aligned and deeply connected. His expertise allows clients to go beyond simply understanding their relational challenges—they are equipped with the exact tools and strategies to create lasting transformation.

 
Tristan’s advanced leadership training in Command Ready Leadership, SMU Summer Leadership, and the EXCEL Model Training (Capturing Kids’ Hearts) further enhances the strategic coaching component of his methodology. His mastery of conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, and communication psychology ensures that his clients don’t just attract love, but develop the skills to sustain it with confidence and clarity. His approach teaches individuals how to communicate effectively, navigate challenges with emotional resilience, and create a dynamic relationship that thrives over time.

 
Beyond his academic and leadership training, Tristan’s experience as an educator, coach, and leadership mentor solidifies his ability to help people shift from self-awareness to real-world application. He has spent years guiding individuals through identity transformation, personal development, and structured growth strategies, which are core pillars of the Be Who You Really See™ Methodology. This ensures that clients don’t just gain knowledge—they experience a subconscious identity shift, stepping into the version of themselves capable of attracting, building, and sustaining the love life they truly desire.

With a background in sociology, educational psychology, and trauma-informed methodologies from The University of Texas at Austin and Texas Christian University’s Karen Purvis Institute of Child Development, Ashley specializes in attachment science, emotional healing, and strategic relationship design. Her work ensures that clients don’t just address the symptoms of relational struggles but instead break free from the root causes—rewiring their emotional responses and transforming their love lives at a fundamental level.

As a TBRI® Practitioner, Certified Nurturing Parenting Facilitator, and PRIDE Trained Educator, Ashley integrates trauma-informed strategies, communication mastery, and identity shifts into a structured, results-driven coaching approach. Unlike traditional relationship support that either focuses on healing without action or action without emotional depth, The Be Who You Really See™ Methodology bridges this gap, providing a repeatable, proven system that combines healing, strategy, and transformation for lasting relational fulfillment.

 
Ashley’s experience in case management, foster care recruitment and training, structured intervention planning, and leadership mentoring gave her a deep understanding of emotional resilience, relational attachment, and subconscious programming. Working with individuals in crisis, she witnessed the lasting impact of unhealed trauma, unconscious fears, and relational conditioning on human connection and communication. This insight became a driving force behind the methodology’s trauma-informed depth, ensuring that clients don’t just gain awareness of their past—but actively reprogram their relational patterns for real, lasting change.

 
Her expertise in relationship dynamics, emotional intelligence, and identity transformation makes her a sought-after mentor for those ready to break free from unhealthy cycles and intentionally design relationships that align with their deepest values. By guiding clients through intentional relationship design, conflict resolution strategies, and personalized roadmaps, she ensures that their love lives are not left to chance but are built with purpose, clarity, and emotional security.