LIVE VIRTUAL EVENT.
A 3-Day Live Identity Alignment Experience
It's Time to Step Into Who You Really See Yourself Being
June 9–11, 2026
Daily at 3:00 PM PT / 4:00 PM MT / 5:00 PM CT / 6:00 PM ET
General Admission $15 | VIP $50
The Fantasy Love Co. Presents
Be Who You
Really See™
A 3-Day Identity Alignment Experience for Vision-Driven Women and Men
The highest desire is not merely a better relationship. It is to experience the totality of who you really see yourself being.
Your love life is mission-critical because it can either fuel that identity and the life you are building — or compromise the process and the end experience. But this experience is about guiding you to be who you really see yourself being
Live Event Dates
June 9–11, 2026 · Daily at 3:00 PM PT
4:00 PM MT / 5:00 PM CT / 6:00 PM ET
Live Virtual Event
Be Who You Really See™June 9–11, 2026
Join Ashley Boyd and The Fantasy Love Co. for three live days of identity alignment designed to help you see the gap, understand the mechanism, and begin living as who you really see yourself being.
Expanded time-zone labels: 3:00 PM PDT / 4:00 PM MDT / 5:00 PM CDT / 6:00 PM EDT.
Meet Your Guide
My name is Ashley Boyd.
And I’m known as the Identity Alignment Strategist because my work guides vision-driven women and men to see themselves clearly, release what doesn’t fit, and Be Who They Really See™ — so who they really see themselves being becomes who actually shows up in the life they are building.
I had the husband, children, beautiful home, career, and the life people called successful — and secretly felt empty. I used everything I had learned through years of people-centered, trauma-informed work to transform my own life. I stopped settling. I stopped pretending. And I became who I really saw myself being.
I created a life, love, marriage, family, mission, and body of work that is in alignment with who I really see myself being — and it has become a source of power, strength, and vitality.
That transformation became the foundation of the Be Who You Really See™ Methodology, which is now informed by more than 18 years of experience helping people recognize what is misaligned, tell the truth about who they really see themselves being, and make decisions that support the life they are building.
What Happens When You Stop Adjusting
“If you talk to Ashley and you have a problem, she’s going to ask you questions that bring up answers to questions that you didn’t even know that you needed to ask. And I really got deep down into like what I really wanted. And I really love what Ashley says about be who you really see. I got a lot of clarity about the type of woman that I want to become. And my life’s vision.”
Kamilah Harrison — Founder of IDoForTwo
“I felt lost, frustrated, and defeated because I felt like I should be further along, in a different spot in my life. The sessions were always inspiring and challenging but I always felt more motivated and driven afterwards. I am in a much better place that feels more aligned to who I am and how I see myself.”
Marshawn Denny
“I completely lost my identity in a divorce and closing businesses. I needed to know how to heal and then recreate my identity. It forced me to see my own light and how my own light can guide me out of darkness. I learned how to find that truth within.”
D. Cox
The Life You Are Building
You Are Not Trying to Fix Something.
You Are Trying to Fully Live Something.
You are vision-driven. You understand that being everything you are called to be starts internally. You are not easily tempted by surface-level answers or the world's version of what should make you happy — because you have a specific, clear vision of the life you are actually here to build.
You want to be fully yourself
Personally, professionally, and in your most intimate relationships. Not a managed version. Not an edited one. The full expression of who you really see yourself being — across the whole life, not just the parts that feel safe.
You want work that is your calling
Rewarding, profitable, and connected to something that matters. Work you are passionate about. Work that sets you free. Not just a career — an expression of who you really see yourself being.
You want a love life that fuels all of it
A partner who sees you, inspires you, and reflects the totality of who you really see yourself being. A relationship that adds power, strength, and vitality to the life you are building — not one that quietly asks you to be less.
You want your family to experience who you really see yourself being
To be the greatest influence in your children's lives. To be present, not depleted. To be the spouse, the parent, the provider, the example — not the managed version of yourself, but the aligned expression of who you really see yourself being.
You are frustrated with surface-level answers. You have sifted through enough frameworks, programs, and approaches that addressed something but never quite reached this. You want the full life — personally, professionally, financially, spiritually — and you want it now.
You are not looking for a better relationship as the highest goal.
You are looking for the full expression of who you really see yourself being — with your love life as a mission-critical area that can either fuel that identity and the life you are building, or compromise the process and the end experience.
The Pain, The Pattern, and The Path
Why the Gap Exists — and What Closes It
The Pain
Something important is not fully expressed
You can see who you really see yourself being. You have built the work, the leadership, the vision. And across the life you are building, something important is still not fully expressed. This becomes especially visible in your love life and most intimate relationships, where a slightly different version of you may keep showing up: the adjusted one, the edited one. It costs you energy you cannot trace, vitality you cannot recover, and it quietly affects everything downstream: your clarity, your capacity, your ability to fully inhabit the life you are building.
The Pattern
This is not a relationship problem — it is an identity alignment problem
The gap is not primarily in the relationship. It is in the identity operating inside the life and love you are building. In the split second between recognizing who you really see yourself being and expressing it — a negotiation runs. The adjusted version replaces the aligned one. Every approach you have tried has started from the relationship, the situation, or the external context and worked inward. This gap can only be addressed from the identity out. That is why nothing has fully reached it. Not because you have not tried hard enough. Because no framework has been built for this specific thing — until now.
The Path
Three days. One complete methodology. A new default.
Be Who You Really See™ is the three-step identity alignment methodology built specifically for this gap. See Yourself Clearly. Release What Doesn't Fit. Be Who You Really See™. In three days, you receive the recognition, the mechanism, and the real-time tool that closes the gap — not as a decision you make every time, but as the new default. The life you are building finally has the totality of who you really see yourself being inside it.
Before We Go Further
Six Questions That Diagnose the Gap
This is not a quiz. It is the sequence that takes you from "something is off" to "I know exactly what this is."
What is the life you see yourself building?
Not the life you have. The one you see. The full picture — the work, the family, the purpose, the freedom, the kind of love that fuels all of it.
Who do you really see yourself being within that life?
Before adjustment. Before editing. Before the version that has learned to maintain, manage, and accommodate. Who is the person that life was built for?
Is your love life currently fueling that version of you — or requiring you to adjust away from it?
Not: is the relationship good? The real question: does your love life add power, strength, and vitality to the life you are building — or does it cost energy that was meant to go there?
What is it costing you to keep living with that gap?
Not just emotionally. In your work. Your leadership. Your creative capacity. Your ability to be fully present with your children, your partner, your calling. Name it specifically.
Are you ready to stop maintaining the gap and begin aligning your love life with who you really see yourself being?
Not someday. Not when the relationship improves. Not when conditions are right. Now — with a mechanism that was built specifically for this, in three days.
That is exactly what this work is designed to help you do.
Be Who You Really See™ is the three-day identity alignment experience that takes you from recognition to mechanism to embodiment. The gap has a name. It has a cause. It has a solution.
This Is Probably What You Are Experiencing
The Gap Has a Specific Shape.
Here Is What It Looks Like.
You are not here because something is broken. You are here because there is a version of yourself you really see — and you expect your entire life to fully align with it.
- You have built the career, the business, or the calling — and the version of yourself you really see there is not yet the version that consistently shows up across the life you are building, especially in your most personal relationships
- You have done the personal development work. Leadership, mindset, health, finance. This gap has not responded to any of it — because none of those frameworks were built for this
- You replay conversations — not because you said something wrong, but because what came out was not the version you see when you see yourself clearly
- You feel a drain you cannot fully trace. You call it stress, workload, or season of life. Some of it is the cost of being the adjusted version in a mission-critical area you have never given a framework
- You want your children to grow up knowing the totality of who you really see yourself being — not the managed one. You want to be the greatest influence in their lives, and you know the adjusted version cannot be that
- You want your partner to see you, inspire you, and experience who you really see yourself being — not the version that maintains, accommodates, and quietly dims to keep things functional
- You are frustrated with surface-level answers. You have tried enough approaches to know that what you need is not another tip or strategy. You need the mechanism. You need the system. You need it now.
This Is Not What You Think It Is
Every approach you have tried has started from the outside and worked inward. Better communication. Different dynamics. New agreements. Another version of the same conversation.
The gap persists — not because you have not tried hard enough, but because every one of those approaches begins from the wrong place. The relationship. The situation. The external context.
The gap is not out there. It is in which version of you is operating at the point of decision — especially in your most personal relationships. In the split second between recognizing who you really see yourself being and expressing it — an automatic negotiation runs. The adjusted version emerges. The aligned one does not.
This is identity alignment.
The subject is who you really see yourself being. Love is one of the highest-leverage places where that alignment is tested — and where the cost of misalignment can become deeply visible.
When who you really see yourself being is who consistently shows up — in your love life, in your work, in your family, in every room you enter — the life you are building gets access to the totality of who you really see yourself being. Not a better relationship. Not an improved version of the adjusted one. A life where who you really see yourself being is fully expressed — and a love life that reflects and fuels that identity and the life you are building.
That is what these three days build toward.
Three Ways People Try to Close This Gap
And the One That Actually Works
Path One
The Achievement Path
Build more. Lead more. Grow the business, the career, the platform, the income, the family vision. Keep adding proof that your life is moving forward while the gap between who you really see yourself being and who is operating inside the life remains unnamed.
The Cost
Achievement can expand the life without resolving the identity misalignment inside it. The calling, the work, the family, the vision may grow — but the totality of who you really see yourself being still does not fully get to live inside what you are building.
Path Two
The Relationship-First Path
Start with the love life as though it is the root. Try to fix the communication, change the partner, improve the dynamic, or make the relationship carry the identity clarity the person has not yet stabilized.
The Cost
The love life becomes responsible for solving a gap it did not create. The same adjusted version keeps showing up because the mechanism operating inside identity has not been addressed. Different conversations, different context — same gap.
The Path That Works
The Identity Alignment Path
Name the gap with precision. Understand the exact mechanism that creates it. Install the real-time tool that closes it — not as a decision you make every time, but as a new default.
The Difference
You are not starting by changing the relationship or building more external proof. You are addressing the identity operating inside the life and love you are building. When that identity is aligned with who you really see yourself being, the life you are building, the family you are raising, the work you are called to, and the love life you are creating all begin to receive the totality of who you really see yourself being.
That is the Be Who You Really See™ Methodology.
“Working with Ashley was a game changer. I knew I wanted a healthy, loving and thriving relationship but I didn't know what that equated to for me. Ashley's process for coaching helped me get clear and confident about what I innately desired, while simultaneously elevating my mind to believe I could receive it and more. The strategy she employs forces you to answer a series of questions, that ultimately programs, and in many areas, reprograms your brain so you can show up and behave congruent with what you say you want and need.”
Terri Brown — Built To Last Solutions LLC
The Three-Day Arc
Three Steps. One Methodology. One Outcome.
Each day builds on the one before. Together they form one complete system — from recognition, through mechanism, to the installed default of being who you really see yourself being.
See Yourself Clearly
The work begins here. Not with the relationship. Not with the situation. With you — and the specific gap between who you really see yourself being and who is consistently showing up in the life you are building.
- You will name — for the first time, with precision — the exact gap between who you really see yourself being and who is operating in your most personal relationships
- You will understand why this gap has persisted across every relationship, every context, and every personal development framework you have already applied
- You will see the full cost of the gap — not just in love, but in your work, your parenting, your leadership, your capacity to be fully present in the life you are building
- You will leave with language for something you have been carrying for a long time without a name that was precise enough to address it
- GA: the complete recognition. VIP: the cost mapped across every area it is actually touching — measurable, specific, guided live.
Release What Doesn't Fit
The gap does not happen by accident. Today you see the exact mechanism that produces it — and what it has been protecting you from.
- You will identify the precise moment — in real time, in ordinary interactions — where identity misalignment is produced and the adjusted version replaces the aligned expression of who you really see yourself being
- You will name the specific pattern that has been running automatically in place of who you really see yourself being — across every context where it is costing you most
- You will understand what release actually means — and why it is not a decision, a discipline, or a willpower problem, but a mechanism update
- You will hear the story that became this entire methodology and recognize the version of yourself inside it
- GA: the mechanism named. VIP: the deeper layer of that mechanism — and your Next Level Identity™ written in your own words, live.
Be Who You Really See™ — Embodiment
Recognition without a mechanism produces awareness, not change. Today you receive the tool that installs the change — in real time, in the exact moments that have always been the hardest.
- You will receive the real-time mechanism that operates in the exact moment between recognizing who you really see yourself being and expressing it — the moment the adjusted version has always run before the aligned one could
- You will understand precisely why recognition alone does not close the gap — and what does
- You will see what becomes available across the full life you are building — your work, your family, your calling — when who you really see yourself being is what consistently shows up
- You will receive the full invitation to take everything mapped across three days into a complete, sustained implementation system
- GA: the mechanism installed. VIP: the sustained operating system, the stall diagnostic, and your Path A response written for the situation where it matters most.
Who This Is For
Is This You?
This is for you if…
- You are building a life — the work, the family, the purpose, the freedom — and the totality of who you really see yourself being is not yet what consistently shows up in your most personal relationships
- You have done the personal development work in every other domain. This gap has not responded to any of it — because it has never had a framework built for it
- You know who you really see yourself being in your calling and your work — and a different version shows up where it matters most
- You want to be the greatest influence in your children's lives and you know the adjusted version cannot be that
- You are in a relationship — a good one, maybe — and you know that good is not the same as the full expression of who you really see yourself being inside it
- You want The Dream — personally, professionally, and in your love life — and you are ready to address it at the identity level, not the surface level
This is not for you if…
- You are looking for communication strategies, relationship tips, or love language frameworks
- You want someone to assess your partner or tell you whether to stay or leave
- You are in active crisis that requires professional therapeutic support
- You are not willing to look at your own identity as the place where the work lives
- You want inspiration in a moment rather than the mechanism that makes the change the default
- You are not ready to be honest about the full cost of who is currently showing up — in love, and in everything downstream of it
Before and After These Three Days
What Changes
Before
- The gap between who you really see yourself being and who shows up has a feeling but no name — and no framework that has ever been built for it specifically
- You apply every tool you have to the relationship or the situation. The gap persists because every approach has started from the wrong place
- You replay conversations because what came out was not the version you see when you see yourself clearly
- You carry a quiet, untraceable energy cost — attributed to work, stress, or season — that is actually the cost of being the adjusted version in your most personal relationships
- The greatest influence in your children's lives, the partner your person deserves, the fully present leader and creator — all of it operating at partial capacity because the source has never been addressed
- The life you are building is being built without the totality of who you really see yourself being in one of the areas with the most leverage over the process and end experience
After
- The gap has a name, a mechanism, and a correction — and for the first time, a framework built specifically for this
- You have the real-time tool that operates in the exact moment the adjusted version has always run before the aligned expression of who you really see yourself being could
- You stop replaying conversations because what you said matches who you really see yourself being
- The energy that was going toward maintaining the adjusted version becomes available for the life you are building — the work, the family, the calling, all of it
- Who you see yourself being is what shows up — not occasionally, as the default — in love and in everything that love has been affecting
- The life you are building finally has the totality of who you really see yourself being inside it
“Having a conversation with Ashley is sometimes hard but always refreshing. What I mean by hard is that she gives you the real about a situation/topic to have you take ownership for your part. In my singleness and now married life she has helped me dig deep in situations that have helped me learn and grow into a whole woman. I am who I am because of the work I have done and the sound coaching provided by Ashley.”
Felicia Roberts
“I called Ashley when my marriage was in a rut. I literally woke up one day and was ready to pull all the money out the bank and leave. Ashley sat on the phone with me and help me process through everything. She was able to help us both assess what was really happening, what was important, and what we both needed to be happy and growing.”
T.D.J. — Wife, Mom, Minister & Entrepreneur
“Prior to enlisting Ashley's mentorship I did not believe that I belonged in the room with high valued individuals. However, under the coaching and mentorship of Ashley I gained the confidence to walk into any room and own it. I am forever grateful for her wisdom, guidance, friendship, sisterhood, safe place to be myself and to learn the confidence to ‘be who I really see!’”
Aunisty
General Admission + VIP
Choose Your Level of Access
Your seat gives you access to the live 3-day experience on June 9–11, 2026. Each session begins daily at 3:00 PM PT / 4:00 PM MT / 5:00 PM CT / 6:00 PM ET.
General Admission
The Roadmap
Investment: $15
- 3 Days of Live General Admission Teaching
- The Complete Framework: The Recognition, The Mechanism, And The Installed Tool — Fully Delivered
- Community Access for The Duration of The Event
- Daily Homework with Community Accountability
- The Complete Roadmap for Connecting Who You Really See Yourself Being with Who Consistently Shows Up
"GA gives you the roadmap. You leave knowing exactly where the gap lives and exactly what closes it."
VIP Experience
The Guided Journey
Investment: $50
- Everything In General Admission, Plus:
- 1 Additional Hour of Deeper Teaching After Every General Admission Session
- The VIP Workbook — Completed Live Across All Three Sessions
- The Real Cost Calculator™ — The Full Cost Named Across Every Area It Is Actually Affecting
- Your Next Level Identity™ Written and Refined Live On Day 2
- The Full Operating System for Sustaining What Day 3 Installs
- Your Personalized Entry Point into The Full Ecosystem, Mapped Live on Day 3
- Live Q&A With Ashley After Every Session
"VIP does not just give you the roadmap. It walks you down it."
Ashley Boyd
Identity Alignment Strategist
Co-Founder, The Fantasy Love Co.
Ashley Boyd is an Identity Alignment Strategist and Co-Founder of The Fantasy Love Co.
She is the co-creator of the Be Who You Really See™ Methodology—a proprietary framework that guides individuals to see themselves clearly, release what doesn't fit, and be who they really see themselves being.
Her work is built on a simple but often unnamed reality: people are not struggling because they lack desire or effort—they are living in misalignment with who they really see themselves being. And when that misalignment exists, it affects how they think, decide, and live—including one of the most influential areas of their life: their love life.
Ashley works with vision-driven individuals—whether single, in a relationship, or married—who are not trying to fix their love life as the highest goal. They are building a life that fully reflects who they really see themselves being — and their love life is mission-critical because it will either fuel that identity and the life they are building, or compromise the process and the end experience.
Her mission is to guide them to Be Who They Really See so they can experience the totality of who they really see themselves being. Within that mission, she focuses on love life because love is one of the highest-leverage areas where identity alignment is either strengthened or compromised.
She guides them to align who they are being with the life they are building—and bring their love life into alignment with who they really see themselves being—so they can create a love life that fuels who they really see and the life they are building.
When love is aligned this way, it becomes a source of power, strength, and vitality, rather than a source of depletion through pretending, settling, or self-sacrifice.
This is not relationship advice. This is identity alignment.
Questions
Frequently Asked
The first Be Who You Really See™ 3-Day Identity Alignment Experience takes place June 9–11, 2026. Each live session begins daily at 3:00 PM PT / 4:00 PM MT / 5:00 PM CT / 6:00 PM ET.
It is about your full life — specifically, whether the person building it is who you really see yourself being. Love life is a primary lens in this experience because it is one of the highest-leverage places where identity alignment is either strengthened or compromised. When the totality of who you really see yourself being shows up in your most personal relationships, it affects your work, your parenting, your leadership, your creative capacity, and your ability to fully inhabit the life you are building. The love life is not the destination. It is the lever.
Most personal development frameworks address the professional, financial, or leadership domain — and produce results there. None of them have been built for the love life specifically. Be Who You Really See™ is the framework for the area your other frameworks have never covered. The person who has done the work everywhere else and still feels this specific gap is not missing motivation or mindset. They are missing the mechanism. This is the mechanism.
Yes — and this is often most important for the person in a good relationship. The gap this event addresses is not about relationship quality. It is about whether the totality of who you really see yourself being is what shows up inside the relationship. A good relationship can coexist with significant identity misalignment. Good is not the same as fully expressed. If you know the difference between those two experiences, you are exactly who this is for.
Completely. The adjusted version of yourself that would show up in your next relationship is operating right now — in every interaction, every dynamic, and every context where the totality of who you really see yourself being has been edited before it could be fully expressed. Everything you receive here changes who enters the next relationship. That changes the relationship from the first conversation.
Neither. This is identity alignment. The subject is always who you really see yourself being — specifically, whether that person is what consistently shows up. Your partner is not the subject of this process. Your identity is. That distinction is what makes this different from everything you have tried before — because it begins from the correct source.
At the close of Day 3 you will receive a complete, specific invitation to enter the Be Who You Really See™ Identity Empire — the full eight-level implementation ecosystem. The event is the roadmap. The ecosystem is the road. Entry points exist at every level of readiness and commitment. You decide how far you go and how fast you move.
You Have Two Choices.
Continue carrying the gap between who you really see yourself being and who shows up — in your love life, in your work, in your family, in everything that gap is costing downstream. Continue applying every framework you have to every other area of your life and leaving this one without one.
Or.
Come to these three days. Name the gap. See the mechanism. Receive the tool. And walk back into your life — your love life, your work, your family, your calling — as who you really see yourself being.
The version of yourself you see is not a fantasy.
It is a recognition. And recognition has a system.
Live June 9–11, 2026
Daily at 3:00 PM PT / 4:00 PM MT / 5:00 PM CT / 6:00 PM ET
P.S. What you are feeling right now — the pull toward this, the part of you that already knows this is the thing you have been circling — that is the recognition. The methodology starts the moment you name it. Start by taking the seat.
P.P.S. VIP seats are limited. If you know you want the full execution layer — the workbook completed live, the deeper teaching, the direct access to Ashley — do not wait. Take the VIP seat now.
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